safe to cry

the last time it was safe to cry

was in preschool

when the sweetest teacher

made cards for everyone

with our characteristics

spelled out in poems


I was described

as a delicate thing of porcelain

overflowing with tears

made of precious pearls

she read it with such warmth

that I could only feel

accepted and safe


years later in school

I cried in Swedish class

because no one warned me

the others were years ahead

and I understood nothing

having studied a different language

and the shame lingered forever


my posture still slumps

every time someone questions

if my reaction is in proportion

or a cry escapes when I'm meant to be

professional and able

and even at home I am not safe

from other people's discomfort


so I quiet the sobs

dry my tears

steady my breath


once and again

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